Claim Your Life Back from Toxic Guilt

editor@yourbestlibrary.com — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 15:43:37 +0000

Imagine a world where people don’t have any feelings of guilt.

No one has any sense of right or wrong and everybody just acts to satisfy his own needs and desires.

It doesn’t sound like heaven on earth, does it?

Obviously, guilt is a valuable feeling for a healthy society.

How much guilt is too much?

Serving the society, your family, friends, and colleagues is great, but how about yourself?

Do you ignore your own needs and desires, while you constantly try to satisfy others?
Is pleasing others your number one priority?
Do you sacrifice yourself, your life, or your identity to avoid disappointing others?

If your answer is “yes” to one of these questions, the chances are high that you’re trapped in toxic guilt.

Your Life Shaped by Guilt

Guilt is a powerful emotion. It can drive you to act in a way that no reason can ever explain.

Guilt can keep you in a toxic relationship, when you have all the reasons to quit.
It can make you stick with a job that breaks you day after day.
You might be hiding yourself behind a mask just because of guilt.

After a while, you lose your identity and your life becomes a means to satisfy others.

Have you ever wondered what toxic guilt made out of your life? Think about it for a second.

Your Life without Toxic Guilt

Now, imagine your life without toxic guilt.

How would you change your life?
What would you do different?
What would you stop doing?

And then, look into the feature. How would your life look like after a year without a toxic guilt? After ten, twenty, or thirty years? How does it compare to your life now?

You’re the One to Choose

You’re the one that has to decide to erase toxic guilt from your life. Once and for all. It won’t be an easy or quick fix, but a definitive one.

It takes dedication, willpower, and a lot of heartache. Only if you stick with it, you’ll get the best that life has to offer to you. A guilt-free life can be your reality.

Escaping Toxic Guilt

If you’ve decided to get rid of toxic guilt but don’t know how to proceed, you can start by reading Escaping Toxic Guilt by Susan Carrell.

In Escaping Toxic Guilt Susan Carrell guides you out of toxic guilt in three sections. First, she explains the guilt trap, so that you can raise your awareness on your feelings of guilt.

Then, she discusses eight common situations that induce guilt. She offers insight on how to overcome toxic guilt in each of them. This section is accompanied by stories of real people. If you find yourself in one of those situations, you will be encouraged and inspired by these stories.

In the last section, Susan Carrell gives you a five step plan to escape toxic guilt. With the five step plan, you’ll know exactly what to do in each step of your progress, from accepting your reality to protecting your boundaries after you’re over with toxic guilt.

Based on the personal and professional experience of Susanne Carrell, Escaping Toxic Guilt is a valuable guide to spot and overcome toxic guilt.

Click here to learn more about Escaping Toxic Guilt by Susan Carrell.

Toxic Guilt

editor@yourbestlibrary.com — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:09:22 +0000

Do you feel stuck in a dead-end marriage, relationship, or job? Is your life shaped by the demands of your parents, children, or spouse? Do you give in all the time to please your family and friends? If you say yes to any of these questions, you might be trapped by toxic guilt.

In Escaping Toxic Guilt, Susan Carrell discusses the feeling of guilt, eight common situations that arouse this feeling, and a five step plan to recover.

Susan Carrell defines guilt as

the emotion we experience when we feel we have done something wrong.

It’s hard to feel satisfied and at peace if we feel guilty. It can rob our life energy, but it can also power us to change our lives. When we have really hurt others or violated their rights, the guilt we feel is a positive one. The positive guilt helps us to improve our behavior and keeps our society a civilized one.

However, if you feel guilty every time something goes wrong, be it your fault or not, the emotion you feel is toxic guilt. The main reason for toxic guilt is the need for the approval of others. People with toxic guilt are manipulated easily by others who make them feel guilty.

Common situations that arouse guilt vary from leaving a relationship to dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, from relationships with children and parents to claiming the sexual identity. In this book, each situation is discussed with common scenarios and worries of the sufferers. A questionnaire at each section helps you to find out if you are suffering from toxic guilt because of the similar reasons.

Susanne Carrell provides a five step plan to overcome guilt. The first step is to speak the truth: to acknowledge the situation that you are in. In the second step, you claim your territory by setting your personal boundaries. The third step involves bracing for the storm; that is dealing with the reactions of others to the changes in your behavior. And in step four, you ride the wind, meaning that you let go, accept the situation and forgive to find freedom. As the last step, you learn to patrol your borders in order to avoid repeating old guilt-driven habits.

Escaping Toxic Guilt is a powerful book that is based on the lifelong personal and professional experience of Susanne Carrell. This book provides the reader with the means to spot and overcome the toxic guilt.

Click here to learn more about Escaping Toxic Guilt.